Friday, February 12, 2010


Do you find that your level of confidence after divorce is kind of shaky? It's understandable that you might question your judgment right now (at least in men), but in order to grow, you need to start believing in yourself again. The following article can help you get started on your recovery, with tips for coping after divorce, cutting yourself some slack, and start living up to your own potential.


Finally it's over! You've signed on the dotted line of your divorce decree and now what? Miraculously are you supposed to feel better? Stronger? More powerful? Not hardly. Yet this can be the expectation of those around you; family, friends, co-workers. Maybe you even expect it of yourself. Before the divorce you had something to point to for your low self-esteem and lack of confidence but now that it is over you're forced to face how you feel about yourself, life and the world around you. As women we've always been taught to put others first. That's what a good mother, wife, daughter does. I want you to throw that out the door. It's time to put you first.

Building or regaining your confidence after a divorce is no different than building and regaining your confidence after any blow to it in life. Taking the necessary steps to pick up the pieces of your life and begin to rebuild it and move forward lies in your sphere of influence. Basically, it's up to you. You've got to find something that makes you feel good about you and do it. The key is how do you do it and how do you get there?

There are six basic stages to recovery after divorce. Denial, Anger, Depression, Loneliness, Acceptance and Forgiveness. Each of these stages is normal and crucial to the healing process. Skipping one or all of them can possibly delay your transition after the divorce. After the stages come the steps to recovery. This is where you begin to build your confidence, one step at a time. There are eight key phrases I like for you to focus on as you begin the journey on the road to rebuilding your life. The Mind, Let it Go, Refocus, Reinvent yourself, Empower yourself, Faith, Courage, and Fresh Start.
Written by LaShon F. Williams
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For more information, contact the Family Law Offices of Renee M. Marcelle at (415) 456-4444, or online at


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