Thursday, March 11, 2010

Practical Tips on Parental Conduct During and Following Divorce

* Put your children's welfare first. Never use your children as a weapon against your spouse.
* Be sure your children have ample time with the other parent. They need it.
* Don't introduce your children to your new romantic partner until the children have adjusted to your separation and your new relationship is stable.
* Don't bring your children to court or to your lawyer's office.
* Keep to the schedule. Give the other parent and the children as much notice as you can when you will not be able to keep to the schedule.
* Be considerate.Be flexible. You may both need to adjust the schedule from time to time.
* Giving of yourself is more important than giving material things. Your children need your consistent love and attention.
* Do not use your children as spies to report to you about the other parent.
* Do not use the children as couriers to deliver messages, money or information.
* Try to agree on decisions about the children, especially matters of discipline, so that one parent is not undermining the other parent's efforts.
* Avoid arguments or confrontations while dropping off or picking up the children and at other times when your children are present.
* Don't listen in on your children's phone calls with the other parent.
* Maintain your composure. Try to keep a sense of humor. Remember that your children's behavior is affected by your attitude and conduct.
* Assure your children they are not to blame for the breakup, and are not being rejected or abandoned by either parent.
* Don't criticize the other parent in front of your children. Your children need to respect both parents.

Information provided by:
Debra J. Braselton, Esq.

For more information, contact the Family Law Offices of Renee M. Marcelle at (415) 456-4444, or online at


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